Ever get in a slump? I know a few folks who just live there.
I have an acquaintance who is always weary. Every time I see him he shrugs his shoulders. He’s out of breath. Tired. Unable to take what life has handed him.
I know another who is always frustrated. Someone is always out to get him – his wife, his boss, the government – in his mind, he just can’t get a break.
I can relate. I’ve gone through a couple of years of rut. In my mind, it wasn’t my fault that I was miserable. It was God’s fault. It was the doctor’s fault. I was tired, had too much to do. In my mind, my grumpiness was justified.
The problem was, it was chronic. For a period of time, I was really, really unenjoyable to be around.
Some would say I’m still that way at times, and they’re probably right. But I think I’ve at least figured out that my outlook on life is my responsibility. What happens to me happens to me. Sometimes it feels like a lot, but I’m not carrying any greater burden than a ton of other people who are walking around with a smile on their face.
Everyone has their battles. Some you outwardly see. Some are masked from the world – but they are there.
Over the past six months, something has changed within me. I think I realized that I was allowing the world to get me down. People were getting on my nerves. I was impatient, and I was self-centered.
I also realized that this frustration with life and negative attitude was affecting me more than it was anyone else. Others would laugh at my sarcasm, feel sorry for the widower and then, they would go enjoy their lives. I was the one who had to live with my miserable self day in and day out, and that was painful.
I’m not quite sure how one reframes life. It’s almost like trying to stop smoking. It’s a difficult thing to do. I’d say step 1 is to realize that you are unhappy or cynical. Step 2 is to want to make a change. Step 3 might be to realize the good that is in your life. And step 4? Make a move - do something that helps you reframe.
The world has thrown me some curve balls. I don’t want to get hit and writhe on the ground. I want to take what was thrown and knock a homer.