Sunday Post 61: Count Your Blessings

Posted by Danny A couple of years before my maternal grandmother died, she lost her mind. It was a sad sight to see. She was the grandmother who would drop what she was doing when my brother and I came to town. She’d sit in the floor and just be with us. Fond, fond memories. [...]

Sunday Post 43: Fear or Hope

Posted by Danny Last week was one of the saddest weeks I’ve had in a while.  Who knows why?  It could be any number of things. When I get into these down moods, I spend an inordinate amount of time thinking.  That may be what gets me in trouble. This week, it has dawned on [...]

Longing for January 17

Posted by Danny Church was really hard this morning.  Actually, church is always hard.  The hymns get stuck in my throat.  A verse that is comforting strikes a chord.  One that seems so simple but isn’t, one of those “don’t worry about lifers”, strikes a nerve.  I left mid service and had the perfect place [...]

5 Things I Wish I’d Done Before Losing My Wife

  1.  Asked her what she would have done had she lost me.  Lisa died 20 months ago.  I bet I’ve wondered 10,000 times what she would have done if she were in my shoes.  I wish I’d known more about how she thought.  I wish I’d had time to do role plays with her [...]

I Can’t Even Imagine

Posted by Uncle Jesse I almost wrote this post in February (hence the attempt at an avant-garde photo of the Tanner house Valentine’s wreath). It recently became relevant again. Danny says he could take all the posts I’ve “almost written” and we’d have two blogs: The Real Full House blog and The Posts That Almost [...]

Sunday Post 19: What do you say?

I have often had people ask me what words were most helpful to me as I was going through the most intense times in my grief.  I hear that each person grieves differently, so what might be comforting for me, may not be for others.  I’d also like to stress that no matter what was [...]

Until It Passes

I do not believe that grief is insurmountable.  I do believe it creeps up on you at times when you think you’ve already kicked its butt.  I don’t sit around in a stupor day in and day out.  I’m not a sad or bitter person.  I have afternoons, like today, that are painful.  I suspect that [...]

Sunday Post 5: The Pinnacle of Despair

Posted by Danny Does anyone like February?  As I struggle to get through this month, I’m thankful Lisa didn’t die in April.  February already stinks - why not maximize the suffering?  It seems that much of the progress I’d made with my grief has flown out the door as we approach the one year anniversary of Lisa’s death.  I [...]

The Sting

Posted by Danny Monday, January 24, was the eleven month anniversary of Lisa’s death and by 2 in the afternoon all I wanedt to do is climb in bed.  For me, the sting burns in a myriad of ways.  It can last a few hours.  I’ve had it last as long as two weeks.  It can [...]

Sunday Post 2: The Small Things

When Lisa and I would ride back and forth to Duke last year, often with bad news in tow, we’d hold hands.  I’d put my arm out, palm up proped on the rest in between our seats.  She’d place her hand over mine.  I can’t recount how many times this year I’ve ridden down the road with [...]

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