Sunday Post 7: Selfish me

A friend recently shared this quote with me:

Prosperity does not equal the favor of God, and adversity does not signal His absence.

That’s fairly easy to believe when your life is good.  Your wife dies, and you begin to question, why in the heck us?  I don’t think I believe we did something wrong to lose God’s favor, but there are a lot of other people out there who haven’t gone through what we’ve just been through.

 One time last year Michelle said, “Daddy, could we give mom’s cancer to someone else?” 

I asked, “Do you have anyone particular in mind?”  

She said, “No.”

“Honey, I don’t think we can give anyone mom’s cancer and I don’t believe anyone would take it if we could.  But I like that you’re thinking outside of the box.”

“I was just wondering.”

To be honest, I’ve looked at some and thought to myself:  Why couldn’t it have happened to them?  We do a lot more on this earth than they do  – especially Lisa (I’m sure I wasn’t thinking about YOU specifically when I had these thoughts, it was someone else).

If I think about my life honestly, even without Lisa, I have a LOT of blessings:  healthy and wonderful kids, a family that loves us enough to do our laundry and a bunch of other dirty stuff, financial security, incredible friends, and the list goes on and on.

Haven’t you seen folks who seem to have a really crappy life and yet they always seem happy and at ease with who they are and what they have?  I hate people like that.  I hate them because they make me look so selfish and bad.

At times I get annoyed at myself for spending so much time feeling sorry for me.  How can I, Danny Tanner, with all that God has given me, complain?

In my grandmothers final years, she developed some form of senility.  In her final months, she would sit and write “Count you many blessings” on a sheet of paper over and over and over again.  At that point in her life, it didn’t look like she had many.  I think it’s interesting that those are the words that stuck with her during the worst period of her life. 

I challenge you to make a list of your blessings.  I bet most of us have too many to count.

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  1. Steve Gill

     /  February 27, 2011

    Hey brother Danny…. I really am thankful that Marian told me about your blog. It’s already added so much to my iife. In just a WEEK. I need to correct you on one point… There is one person that would have taken her cancer and we both know who that person is…. you! Lisa’s death is not death as you know. She’s in heaven. For some reason God has me thinking about Charlotte’s Web this morning. I’m gonna let the Holy Spirit have it’s way. Remember when Charlotte died and all those little spiders were born. That’s what Lisa’s leaving this earth is already doing. I can see that from a mile away. Each person that has had an opportunity to witness her courage and faith and love for her family is now better off as she continues to work in our lives. Her leaving has sparked “New Life” in all of us. I don’t know about others, but I am going to make more moments count. Thank you Lisa. Thank you God for working through this tough time. And thank you Danny for your daily musings. It’s good to laugh and love again. Lisa wants that.

    • Danny Tanner

       /  February 27, 2011

      She would like us all working a little harder to enjoy live and do good things!

  2. I have heard it is okay to question God. As long as we do it with open hands to ask why and not a closed fist, shaking it at Him and yelling. It’s in the attitude!
    Yes, let us count our many blessings and see what God has done!

  3. Patty Thomson

     /  February 27, 2011

    Thank you for those words today!!! I think it is alright to ask God why. The hard part is accepting the answer. I can not believe that MY GOD would do bad things to His believers. I do believe that when bad things happen to His believers, He is walking by their side the whole way. It is hard to see Him through teary eyes because they blur everything. Counting blessings IS good. One of my blessings is knowing your family and seeing the man you have grown up as. Keep on showing others that life is not always easy, but it is alright to share our feelings and accept help from friends.

  4. Melanie Walker

     /  February 27, 2011

    The kids received “gratitude journals” today at Sunday school which they are supposed to use daily to jot down 2 or 3 things for which they are thankful. It is a great way to be aware of our blessings. It certainly always seems easier to focus on the challenges. Thanks for the reminder to refocus.

  5. Mom

     /  February 27, 2011

    Yes! Again you’ve hit the nail on the head. We still have to wade through it which means we have to go through some pain but through it all, we are a blessed family.

  6. You are right on target. I have some good friends, a couple; the husband has advanced ALS. They said that when they first heard the diagnosis, they asked “Why us?” Very quickly that question changed to “Why NOT us?” It has been very difficult for them, but they have dealt with their lot in life with extreme grace.

    • Danny Tanner

       /  February 28, 2011

      Lisa’s initial response to cancer was the same – “Why not me? Everyone else gets it” she’d say. I wasn’t as accepting. It’s interesting how different folks respond to devastating news. Wish I could be more like them.


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