In January 2010, a month or so before Lisa died, I was trying to figure out how God would allow this to happen. I firmly believed that He had the power to step in and save her. As I tried hard to wrap some logic around the fact that my wife would likely die prematurely from this horrible disease, several senarios came to mind. One I called the Hawaii Theory.
I imagined that I walked into our house and announced to the family that I had booked a surprise trip to Hawaii. We’d be heading out the following week and were going to spend 10 days in paradise. Everyone was excited at first and then DJ said, “Dad, does that mean I’m going to miss the school dance next Friday?”
“Oh, yeah – you probably will,” I replied.
“Then I’m not going to Hawaii! I want to stay here.”
“Honey, I’ve paid for this trip! It’s Hawaii!!! We’re going to have a great time.”
“You are so mean dad! You can’t make me go. I really want to go to the dance. All of my friends will be there. Hawaii is stupid. I DON’T want to go!”
“I’m taking your butt to Hawaii and you’re calling me mean? This is crazy!.”
DJ calls her friends, “My dad is making me go to Hawaii – he calls it paradise, with the family and now I’m going to miss the dance.” They all concur that I’m an unreasonable jerk.
But – I make her go. And, she has a GREAT time. She meets new friends and she even admits it is the most beautiful place she’s ever been.
Her friends all go to the dance, and although they miss DJ, they end up having a pretty good time without her.
Perhaps, just perhaps, this is what happened with Lisa. God, the dad, taking her to a place so much better than she, or we, could ever imagine. Us, the friends, so ticked at Him for not allowing her to go to the dance with us. But, in the end, she gets to be somewhere that is so much better than where we are. And the neat thing is that one day we get to join her.
As I think of the incredible sacrifice God made at Easter, as difficult as it was to see His son suffer, perhaps He knew that they would end up together – in the most beautiful place ever. A place that we can’t comprehend –