Last year my grief counselor told me that I needed to begin to develop some new interests. She gave me an example of a woman who lost her husband some years ago. In trying to fill her time and develop her new identity, she began taking salsa dance lessons.
I told her it just wasn’t me.
Before Lisa died, I really didn’t need a lot of outside interests – or at least I didn’t think I did. I was interested in her! In looking back on it, that was a mistake. Because I didn’t have other ways to focus my time, filling the void she left was that much harder.
Fortunately I’ve sort of stumbled into writing. It’s something I enjoy and I can do as much or as little as I want. The Christmas Carol tryout wwas a different story. It was a leap – out of the comfort zone. A new adventure. And I’m excited we’ve gone out on a limb to do something really new to us.
I wish I would not have waited for a significant life change to stick my neck out an try some new things. Throwing caution to the wind, taking a litte risk, can make your life richer. A good lesson for me to learn.