Posted by Danny
I changed doctors about a year and a half ago. I’d been seeing this guy for years, he’d touched me in so many personal ways, I felt an intimate connection with him. But he couldn’t remember my name. It hurt. So I made a change.
My new physician’s name is Brian. I like him a lot. He’s about my age – I think he understands some of what I’m facing as a 46-year-old man.
Even though he’s a great guy, I was still dreading my physical last week. I get excited about a massage, there’s a woman named Shelva in West Virginia who gives me my annual rub down at Capon Springs. Her hands are like money! But for some reason, I didn’t have the same level of enthusiasm about my family practitioner.
I had worked myself up – I struggled to sleep the night before. The anxiety of someone I didn’t know poking and prodding all over my body just about undid me. The words, “Turn around and bend over – this won’t hurt a bit” kept echoing through my head. I could smell the latex glove.
I woke up early. I wanted to make sure I’d done all of my business before heading to the internal masseuse. I cleaned extra well. I wanted be his tidiest patient that day. I can imagine some of the conversations he must have with his nurse after certain patients leave the office. I didn’t want to be the topic of their water cooler talk. And if I was, I wanted it to be good…”Did you smell him?” “I sure did! Like Old spice!” “Un huh.”
We all know why there is mouthwash in the dentist’s bathroom. If I was Brian, I’d invest in a bidet.
The nurse entered. “Are you having any problems Mr. Ham?”
“How often does this occur?”
“Anally – I mean annually.”
“The doctor will be here in a minute.”
She didn’t tell me to remove my clothes. At my other doctor’s office, I had to disrobe by now – down to my boxers. I don’t want to undress in front of him. That’s so personal.
He enters, “I’m going to listen to your heart first. Take a few deep breaths.”
He’s a big guy. Athletic. Look – at – those – hands!
“Sounds good. You’ll feel a little pressure on your stomach.”
He’s going for my pelvis. It’s coming…
“Let’s take a look at your feet. I see you have several planters warts.”
He didn’t even look down there. What’s up with that?
“Now it’s recommended that caucasian men get a prostate exam at age 50. But I can do one this year if you’d like. It’s your call.”
My other doctor started those when I hit 40! That’s not right. Why did he do that? I feel so violated.
“Uh, un, I’m good. I would not like one of those. Actually, my prostate is feeling in-credible! Never felt better. Healthiest prostate in Raleigh! Everythings just fine with my prostate. Got those warts on my feet, but my prostate is dandy, no warts there! I’m thinking 50 is good. Yeaaaaa, 50.”
I’m going to sue my former doctor.