Last week I did my first eulogy. Do you do a eulogy? Say a eulogy? I guess you eulogize someone.
I was honored to be asked by an elderly lady who attended my church and who was an avid exerciser at the Y. She called me a month or so ago and explained that she had been diagnosed with lung cancer. She felt like her time was limited. She was making plans.
Sarah told me I was a good man and that certainly I could think of something good to say about her. She was right. It was easy to think of wonderful things about my friend.
It’s a huge responsibility to speak at someone’s funeral. The opportunity only comes around once. It is the single time that folks will outwardly, in front of your friends and family, talk about what you’ve meant to this world.
As I thought about Sarah last week, I also thought about the end of my life. When it’s all said and done, what would I want someone to say about me?
I really spent some time thinking about this and have decided there are about five things I hope someone will remember when they give that 10 minute synopsis of my life.
1) He made us laugh.
2) He was a really, really good father.
3) He made a difference in this world (and be able to support that statement with several specific examples).
4) He lived his faith through his actions.
5) He loved people – he loved all people, and it showed.
When I look through this list, there are a couple I think I’ll knock out of the park. There are a few, though, where I’m currently coming up short. That means I have to accept that I’m probably going to fail or I’m going to have to make some changes now.
Suppose I lived my life with those five goals in mind. What if I considered my daily actions determining if what I was doing was moving me toward those goals or away from them?
Perhaps a little focus today, will ensure a more interesting and thoughtful message upon my demise.