The Question Has Been Popped

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I’m guessing that all people live through highs and lows in life.  It’s natural to feel the ups and downs that come with transition, success and loss.  I think that for most of us, the ride is fairly smooth – living in a state of good most of the time – not incredible, yet not so bad.

I am very certain that others in this world have felt pain deeper than mine, although I find it hard to comprehend.  In 2010, I hurt.  Gut wrenching, bone chilling pain.  I can’t imagine worse.  It was deep and perpetual, with very few moments of light; hard to put into words.

I remember going to my grief counselor early on in my journey.

“Danny, it will be three to five years before you feel normal,” she told me.

“That is unacceptable,” I replied.

In many ways she was right.

I made good decisions as I pondered my future.  I got significant counseling, poured myself into new adventures, and was cautious not to jump into a new relationship simply for the sake of avoiding loneliness, my greatest fear.  Although, I longed for companionship, for someone to really love.

My, my, how life has changed.

Last Tuesday night I drove to Charlotte to surprise my girlfriend; my kids in tow.  They dropped me at a restaurant I’d never been in before.  I walked in, the maitre d’ was expecting me.  He escorted me to a cozy booth he had chosen for this occasion.  Forty-five minutes later, Julie arrived.  She thought she was meeting one of her best girlfriends for dinner, instead she got me.

“Why are you in Charlotte?  What’s going on?” she was puzzled.

“I have a question I need to ask,” I informed.

Two years ago, when we first started dating, I was captivated.  What I didn’t know at the time was that she was THE one.  This woman who loves me unconditionally, laughs at my jokes, and challenges me to be better, totally stole my heart.

Some people are lucky enough to find their compliment.  Someone with the balance of enough same and enough different.  Someone who fits.  I am that lucky one.

We aren’t perfect, but we’re perfect for each other.

Like grief, true love can be indescribable.  It’s a feeling of fullness and security.  It busts right through the hard, making everything seem alright.  Even in separate cities for now, my loneliness is gone.

Oh, she said yes!  We will marry at some point in 2019 after her daughter finishes high school.

I’m not sure how or why, but somehow I’ve been given a second chance at life, something at times I just couldn’t imagine.  The lesson for me is hope.

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40 Comments

  1. Vicky

     /  January 3, 2018

    Congratulations! How wonderful! Thank you for sharing with us.

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  2. Morgan

     /  January 3, 2018

    Great news – very happy for you!

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  3. Congratulations Danny Tanner! I¹ll have a deal for you on wedding invites.

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  4. Wow! what a wonderful event, what wonderful news, what a wonderful beginning to a new year. If I could I’d click my heels for the both of you. Congratulations! God bless you all. Thanks for all the times you share with us.

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  5. Jo Nance

     /  January 3, 2018

    Best wishes to Julie and congratulations to you! I am thrilled for all the folks I love so much.

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  6. Mel Ham

     /  January 3, 2018

    What a great girl she is❤️ I am so glad and happy for all of the Hams
    Looking forward to more memories with a sister in law cheers to us

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  7. Shelly Greer

     /  January 3, 2018

    What wonderful news!!! Congratulations!!

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  8. Mary Ann Olsen

     /  January 3, 2018

    Life successfully reimagined and captured. Good!

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  9. Beth Fields

     /  January 3, 2018

    This news made my day:)

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  10. Missy Mangum

     /  January 3, 2018

    Y’all are special people and I am so happy for you!!

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  11. Whoooooo!!! 🙂 🙂

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  12. Congratulations to all of you and your beautiful, lucky family!

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  13. Peggy Truluck Cusick

     /  January 3, 2018

    So very happy for all of you!! Good things come to those who wait!! Congrats cousin! Best wishes for much happiness!!

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    • Danny Tanner

       /  January 15, 2018

      Thank you Peggy. Hope all of the Truluck’s are well. Did you know that my youngest daughter’s middle name is Truluck.

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  14. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!

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  15. Joe Mack

     /  January 3, 2018

    Congratulations my friend! I cannot express the happiness and joy in my heart to hear this great news for you! It gives me MUCH HOPE!

    “Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love Him.” James 1:12

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  16. Aunt Susan

     /  January 3, 2018

    So congratulations to ALL of you, kids included, they are all getting something good.
    I hope I can attend, and that you will let me do what I can for all of you,

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  17. Faye Humphrey

     /  January 3, 2018

    So very happy for you Bruce. What an example you ave set these past few years. Congratulations to all of you.

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  18. Congratulations. It’s so silly, that I am crying. I don’t even know you and yet your words touch me. I’m so very happy for all of you!

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    • Danny Tanner

       /  January 15, 2018

      Ahh – so many people have lived this with me. Thank you for your kind words!

      Reply
  19. Mary Margaret Underwood

     /  January 3, 2018

    This is beautiful! I am so happy for you and Julie!! You two are going to have such a blessed life together.
    Mary Margaret and Bob Underwood

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  20. Margy Corder

     /  January 3, 2018

    I’m so happy that for the second time you’ve found somebody special to share the rest of your life with. Congratulations!

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  21. Winkie

     /  January 3, 2018

    Happy Happy News!!!! We are thrilled!!!

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  22. Evie Lichti

     /  January 4, 2018

    WaHoo! I knew before some of the others. Dad (meaning YOUR Dad) couldn’t keep it to himself any longer.
    God bless ALL of you and I wish you ALL the very best! Evie

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    • Danny Tanner

       /  January 15, 2018

      Dad and my oldest daughter. I’m surprised Julie didn’t find out.

      Reply
  23. Brilliant news!

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  24. Andy and Cindy

     /  January 6, 2018

    Congratulations!!! We are friends with Julie – and we totally agree with how blessed you are to find her. After reading your post, we have also decided how blessed she is to find you too! Best wishes and we are so happy for you all.

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  25. Anne

     /  January 6, 2018

    I’ve been reading your blog for several years. This news made my eyes misty, and I don’t even know you. Much happiness to you and Julie, and your beautiful children.

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  26. Reid campbell

     /  January 6, 2018

    OMG! One of your girls looks just like Lisa. So happy for both of you. Everyone deserves a second chance at happiness despite an initial
    Heart break. I was an AdPi with both lovely ladies. Wishing you the best! Reid Robertson Campbell

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    • Danny Tanner

       /  January 15, 2018

      Yes – my middle one is her spitting image. Thank you for the best wishes.

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  27. Maggi McCutchen

     /  January 7, 2018

    I do not know you but I knew Julie some years back and shared wonderful times of prayer and laughter and walking through some rough spots. God has given you a gift of such beauty (inside and out) that you probably never conceived of having such a gift. I am thrilled for you but also for Julie who is one of God’s favorites! God bless you both in your new life together
    Maggi

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  28. Congratulations, what wonderful news.

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