What are you going to do with it?

AC Snow died this past week. AC was a long time columnist for the News and Observer here in Raleigh. He was 97. AC read some of my blog posts. On occasion he would email me to point out a grammatical error, “you’re much too strong a writer to make that mistake.” I was embarrassed about my blunder but was honored that THE AC Snow couched his corrections with a compliment. Strong writer! Yeah!

I knew his wife much better than I knew him. Mrs. Snow was a professor at NC State. I loved her so much I took three of her courses. I’ve used what she taught, public speaking, more than any other learnings in my life.

Nancy and AC lost a daughter in a tragic accident many years ago. He once wrote about it in his column. Perhaps the most remarkable thing to me about Mr. Snow was that even after this life-altering event, and yes the death of a child is forever life-altering, he rallied and continued to share joy with the world through words. The pain never goes away after grief, but one is able to recover – to find joy – to share joy – and live full again.

When Uncle Jesse and I started this blog about a decade ago, I was just beginning to reimagine a life that had been altered. Four weeks ago, I married Julie – she fills me in ways I could never have dreamed. I love her with all of my heart. I simply couldn’t have even dreamed of this day a few years back. It took faith, some luck, an army of supporters, and frankly internal grit.

If it hasn’t yet, it will likely hit you – grief, depression, life not turning out the way you’d imagined. What are YOU going to do with it?

I choose love.

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  1. Steve Montgomery

     /  February 2, 2022

    Good choice! Thrilled for you both.

  2. Jane Scott

     /  February 2, 2022

    I know a little bit about second love and wish you both long, happy, fun, interesting lives together and then turned outward to embrace and love the world.
    I look forward to meeting the bride.

  3. Christine

     /  February 2, 2022

    Thrilled. Beautiful true true words. Congratulations!

  4. Pam

     /  February 2, 2022

    Congratulations!! I am so happy for you and Julie! The photos are gorgeous!

  5. Susan Permar

     /  February 2, 2022

    Nice photos! and great ceremony. I am so glad you are still doing this blog.

  6. Cynthia

     /  February 5, 2022

    So very happy for you, Julie and your blended family. Congratulations and may you always see each other through the eyes of love.


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