I don’t mean this in an ugly way, but Lisa was a pretty good nagger. She didn’t really stay on me about stuff cause I typically do what I’m supposed to do. But she could harp on the kids about a plethora of things: practicing the piano, completing their homework, keeping their skin moisturized, getting their thank you notes written, and more!
Since I’ve been the sole parent, I’ve had to take up the role of naggart.
I don’t mind, there’s part of me that perversely enjoys getting under another’s skin. What I stink at is remembering. I just don’t care enough to be a great nag.
I so want to excel at this task. I long to hear a child’s annoyed whine, “Daaaaad. You don’t have to tell me again!”
I long to respond, “Clearly I do! You did not do it the first six times I asked!”
The problem is, I never asked, because I forgot.
This week we’ve been at the beach, and I have had the awesome opportunity to hassle Stephanie all week long. She’s about the head to camp for four weeks, and she has to complete a massive math assignment for her class placement for the fall. She did the work once, but the school sent us an email encouraging her to push a little harder so they could put her in an honors class.
I was excited!
“Stephanie, if you increase your grade on the placement test slightly, you can take Honors Geometry next year!”
I had visions of Harvard, a PHD, maybe a Nobel Peace Prize! My daughter, one and the same as pi.
She didn’t bite.
“Isn’t the honors course harder?”
“It IS more challenging,” I thought I was giving her a boost!
“Then why would I want to take that?”
“The Nobel Peace Prize baby! STEM is in!”
She just couldn’t see our vision for her future (by our, I mean my).
So, we’ve spent at least one miserable hour each day of our vacation fighting about math. We’ve been here six days, I have the conversation memorized.
“Stephanie,” I start in the kindest tone I can muster. “You need to start thinking about spending some time on your math.”
“I HATE MATH! IT’S SUMMER VACATION, WHO HAS TO DO MATH IN THE SUMMER?”
“This is rediculous!”
“Baby, you’re good at math. You got an award in 8th grade assembly for math!”
“I like math, in the school year! I don’t like math in the summer. When am I ever going to use math in my life?”
“Mmmm. Let’s see. EVERY DAY!”
“Not this kind of math. Do you ever factor a polynomial at work?”
“Seriously? I work at the Y.”
And then, I get to nag. For an hour at a minimum.
“You could have been done with today’s work in the amount of time you’ve spent complaining. Shut your pie hole and get to work!”
It’s no use. I think she just likes to argue. It’s gonna be a constant battle. She’s “asleep” now. Her computer screen is black. Geeze.
I’m just gonna drop it until next week. By then I will have forgotten, and she’ll be in basic math.
Oh well, who wants a stinkin’ Nobel anyhow?
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