Posted by Danny
Today would have been Lisa’s 41st birthday. I’m on a cruise – I just can’t face these days at home.
But I think that she has given me a gift on this, her birthday.
On February 14, 2010, Lisa wrote me a Valentine’s Day card. It was ten days before she died.
For some reason, I did not open it that night. She was sick and I just never got around to it. In fact, I didn’t decide to open it until the day after her funeral.
When I sat in my chair in the den and opened the red envelope, I was scared that I was going to be disappointed. That perhaps she would have just signed her name.
I was not.
It wasn’t a long card, but it was the most beautiful, selfless thing I’ve ever read.
I have written that I have very little guilt associated with Lisa’s death. I think I did all that I could – and perhaps I have that clear conscience because she wrote that in this card.
It was a message from the one I loved who told me not to worry, not to feel responsibility for the outcome of her disease – that I had done all that I could do.
It was a get out of jail card from the only person who could issue such freedom.
Although I was totally unprepared for Lisa’s death, my wife knew she was going to die and wasn’t about to let that keep the rest of us from living. Instead of resentment toward those who were able to stay behind, she showered them with love and offered us an invitation to move forward without her.
She gave us the gift of a clear conscience; she gave us the gift of a guilt free future.
Happy Birthday Baby. And thank you.