So Long St. Tim’s


June 15, 2017


Dear St. Timothy’s School,

Our relationship started in the fall of 1995.  My wife took a job with you, her second “real” job.

It was 2002 when our first, DJ, walked through your doors as a timid kindergartener.  Although her mother worked at the school, that did not stop DJ from holding onto her skirt and shedding a massive amount of tears at drop off for a significant portion of the year.

Fifteen years later, as our youngest finishes the eighth grade and we end our time with you, I reflect.

You have produced three honor roll students, two Mary’s in the Christmas pageant, one head cheerleader, at least one Student Body President (my memory fails me), a soloist at graduation, several runners (sort of) and a couple of Headmaster Award winners.  Each kid with varying personalities and talents were challenged.  Each left feeling as if she was capable of tackling the world.

When we were at our lowest, you surrounded our family – wrapping us in your safety.  You hired the teacher who bought our youngest new tennis shoes in the middle of the school day because I was so buried in grief I hadn’t noticed the sole was falling off.  You employed the art teacher who still meets my sophomore in college for lunch when she returns to town and the literature teacher who confessed that Stephanie was one of her all-time favorite kids.  There was the teacher who confessed to my child who wet her pants that she sometimes did the same; the one who brought To Kill A Mockingbird to life and the one who texted me with excitement when my kid cut 40 seconds off her mile in track.  Oh, and the one who didn’t get mad when our family went to school early to cover his car in post-it notes.

You allowed us to heal in an unconventional way – singing Christmas Carols in your hallways to an accepting audience; inviting Uncle Jesse and me to referee the staff/student annual basketball game; taking pictures when two alumni and a father arrived at the first day of school last fall dressed in old school uniforms.  You let us be us – supporting, giving space when appropriate, holding kids’ and father’s hands when needed.

I’m not sure, but I can’t imagine there are many schools that so readily allow kids to feel so safe, so comfortable that they can truly be themselves.  You have done just that for my girls.

I am forever indebted.

Thank you to all:  teachers, staff, administrators, parents and students for what you have done to build a most solid foundation in my kids and for helping to rebuild my family.

Danny Tanner

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  1. Meghan

     /  June 21, 2017

    This is so beautiful. Thanks so much for sharing, it’s really touching and uplifting.

  2. Missy Elam Mangum

     /  June 21, 2017

    I miss STS. Thank you for putting into words what I feel but couldn’t say. My children were children there – happy, safe and learning.

  3. Ac Snow

     /  June 21, 2017

    Bruce/Danny….. What a classic column! St. Timothy should frame it and hang it…give copies to each member of the faculty……….ac

  4. Mom

     /  June 21, 2017

    It has truly been an exceptional journey. I have watched the girls depend on the ladies at the front desk to hug them, have a little snack for them after school while they waited for their ride home and help them with homework when they got out a little early. It has been a safe place for them to land even though Mom was not there anymore. They had a number of “Moms” watching out for them willing to help in whatever way was needed but most importantly, to let them know they were loved. Lisa would be grateful to all of you if she could have seen your support and love for her kids. I am also grateful for your special care in a very difficult situation. And like Bruce said, your produced capable young ladies who can face the world with confidence. Thank you from one of the grandmothers.

  5. Patty Asher Hunt

     /  June 21, 2017

    What a wonderful tribute to St Timothy’s School and to Bruce and his
    beautiful, talented girls.

  6. Charlie Welborn

     /  June 21, 2017

    Great story of love and perseverance. Thanks for sharing. Your writings always encouragement me!
    Charlie Welborn

  7. Kim Balentine

     /  June 21, 2017

    It will not be the same without you guys!

  8. Evie Lichti

     /  June 23, 2017

    Danny- You almost made me cry! What a gift you have w/ words (among a “few” other things)! Blessings on you, m’ boy!’


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